Writing a fairy tale for the adoption story

Hello, Natalia! I am a happy mother of three children. The eldest son is 23 years old, average 17 years old and the youngest daughter is only a year and three months old. I am married, married for over 25 years. Throughout my life together, my husband and I really wanted to have a daughter, but it so happened that our first children were boys. Therefore, in 2015 we adopted our girl. Passing a course of study at the School of adoptive parents, we abandoned the intention to hide the fact of adoption from her. I think the best way to tell her about her birth is a fairy tale. Having seen on the site that there is a specialist of a fairy tale therapist, I immediately decided to consult with you about this. Tell me, please, are there any rules by which the plot of such a fairy tale is built, from what age you can begin to tell it (the daughter loves to read books with us, fairy tales). Maybe give advice on writing such a fairy tale? Thank you in advance.

Hello. Any fairy tale has its magic healing power, and since all children love fairy tales, you can begin to tell them from birth.

In your case, the baby is still small, and therefore it’s best to start with the fairy tales “Once there was a little nestling that lost its house ...” or “Once there was a mother hen, and once an egg appeared in her family, small and beautiful, and soon hatched from him a very cute chicken ... " And then you can continue to write the story about this chicken yourself, attracting your daughter to it.

So you can choose any character, close and favorite baby. A little older you can tell a fairy tale "Thumbelina", "Snow Maiden", "Boy with a finger." Reinforce read by watching cartoons, such as "Little Mammoth", "Wolf and Calf."

After each tale, talk to your daughter, discuss the tale characters, ask questions that interest you, children at this age easily assimilate any information.

There are several other works that were specially written for foster children: D. Sabitov, Tales of Martha, M. Moskvin, “What happened to the crocodile?”, “The Adventure of Buffy Hedgehog, Tam-tam's Bear and Owl Lou” There are no special fairy tales, the main fairy tale is the one told by mom. All the best!

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