A child beats children for no reason.

Good day! My child (3.5 years) inadequately responds to other children in the playground, in the park, in the hospital — it can come up and strike without any reason. How do you advise us to respond to this behavior?

Hello, here it is necessary to understand why your child shows aggression. After all, the main causes of children's aggression are indifference and criticism from parents, the use of physical punishment and insult in the upbringing. Also, young children often copy characters from famous cartoons and movies. Sometimes parents do not notice the beginnings of aggressive manifestations in their children (children at an early age bite their parents or throw objects at the time of anger). And by about three years, such aggression can be redirected to peers.

Mostly children conflict, in order to prove themselves, show their dominance, and some simply do not know how to communicate. Therefore, they can hit the head with a toy, bite, push. Later, as they grow older, they, of course, will learn to control themselves and their emotions, as well as learn social norms.

What to do? It is very good if the parents are wise and offer the child at the time of aggression other ways to express their state: you can beat a pillow, tear paper, play games where the child will either fight the negative character, or depict it. If this is not done, the emotion will “go inside” and subsequently manifest itself in the form of stubbornness and disobedience..

If you still did not have time to switch the baby and caught him in a situation when he beats the child, try to intercept the blow, stop the child’s hand. Explain to him that the other will be hurt, and he will cry. If the blow has already happened, say that the child was hurt, show how he was upset and wept. It is necessary not just to say that it is impossible to fight, but to explain why (because it hurts, it is unpleasant).

Offer your child a different way out of the situation: what did you want to ask him? This can be done in words, not a fight. If your child pushes, beats just like that, show how you can interact: do not hit, but hug, stroke, hold the handle, touch lightly. As a rule, young children stop and begin to gently stroke the head of the other. If your kid continues to fight, take pity on the offended child, and take yours away. Take it in your hands and take it a few meters from the offended. It is necessary to show that in this way the game does not stick together, that children who fight play independently.

Children's aggressiveness usually increases throughout the preschool age and declines only in the first grade. Psychologists attribute this to the fact that by this age the child already knows how to solve conflicts in a different way, he already has the experience of "letting off steam" in game situations. All the best!

Information provided for reference purposes. Do not self-medicate. At the first symptoms of the disease, consult a doctor.
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