The child always feels sorry for himself

Hello! How to behave if the child cannot cope with minor difficulties on his own, pity himself every time (“they don't help me,” “they don't expect me,” etc.). I tried to ignore in the hope that I would calm down - it does not help, the crying does not stop. Conversations, suggestions in a situation where the baby is calm, also do not help. Could this be the result of psychological trauma, should we contact a psychologist?

Hello. Most likely, your baby has anxiety due to the traumatic situation, hence the lack of confidence in their actions and words. Often, many parents make a child such demands that he can not meet. The child simply cannot understand how and with what to please them and tries by all means to achieve their favor and love. But after failing, he realizes that he will never be able to accomplish everything that mom and dad expect from him. And then he feels like a loser, not like everyone else, begins to apologize for any actions, crying for any reason.

Excessive hyper-care on the part of parents also prevents the child from growing up and independently making important decisions and performing actions. Making decisions for their child, parents only inhibit its development.

What to do? Always be consistent in your actions and in the methods of education, do not prohibit the child for no reason what you have allowed before.

Take into account the individual capabilities, temperament of the baby. Do not demand from him that which he is unable to accomplish.

If a child is hardly given any activity, once again help him, support him, and in order to achieve even the slightest success, do not forget to praise. Trust the child, be honest with him and accept him as he is.

If you play with your child in joint games, socializing and relaxing with your parents, you will strengthen your faith in your abilities, opportunities, and develop a sense of pride and dignity.

Avoid any type of work on the speed, it is better to do the job slowly, but qualitatively. And never compare a child with other children.

Contribute to improving the self-esteem of the child, often praise him, even for small achievements, because for him it is very important.

If the above recommendations do not help you, then be sure to consult with a child psychologist to find the cause of this behavior. All the best!

Information provided for reference purposes. Do not self-medicate. At the first symptoms of the disease, consult a doctor.
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