What to do parents hyperactive child: tips psychologist

Hyperactive children are very restless, they always run, jump, show activity. Sometimes it seems to everyone that they have a motor attached to them that works endlessly. They can move actively for a long time, even if others do not demand it from them.

During games and activities, children cannot sit still and cannot control their arms and legs. So, in 2 - 3 years, when the baby is very mobile, he often rolls tantrums, naughty, runs and quickly overexcited, tired. Against this background, there may be various diseases, sleep disturbance.

In 3–4 years, disorder of coordination of movements is added, and parents are so tired of such behavior that they start to sound the alarm and turn to specialists. Proved by experts that the maximum number of manifestations symptoms ADHD is observed during a child's crisis - at 3 years and at 6-7 years. Such a portrait of a hyper-reactive child does cause many problems and upbringing problems for parents.

Signs of manifestation of this diagnosis depends on a combination of three main manifestations:

1. Lack of attention (inattention). The kid is inconsistent in his actions. He is distracted, does not hear the speech addressed to him, does not follow the rules and is not organized. Often forgets his things and avoids boring, demanding mental effort.
2. Motor disinhibition (hyperactivity). Such children can not sit in one place for a long time. An adult has the impression that the child has a spring inside or a running motor. Constantly fidget, run, sleep badly and talk a lot.
3. Impulsiveness. The child is impatient, can scream from the spot, interfere in the conversation of others, is not able to wait for his turn, sometimes aggressive. Poor control of their behavior.

It is important for each parent to know and understand where the child has these symptoms and why. Let's try to explain all this.The brain of a child at birth was slightly damaged for some reason. Nerve cells, as is known, are not restored, and therefore, after injury, other healthy nerve cells begin to gradually take over the functions of the injured, that is, the recovery process begins immediately.

Parallel to this is the age development of the child, because he learns to sit, walk, talk. therefore from the very beginning, the nervous system of a hyperactive child works with a double load. And in the event of any stressful situation, prolonged stress (for example, adaptation in the kindergarten or at school), the child has a worsening of the neurological condition, symptoms of hyperactia appear.

This is one of the most important causes of hyperactivity. Most often, parents who come to us for a consultation and do not suspect that the reasons for such behavior of their children lies in the family:

• Lack of maternal caresses and human communication;
• Lack of warm contact with close people;
• Pedagogical neglect, when parents do not pay attention to the child at all;
• An incomplete family or many children in the family;
• Mental tension in the family: constant quarrels and conflicts between parents, an excess of emotions and actions associated with manifestations of power and control, a lack of emotions and actions associated with love, care, understanding;
• Child abuse;
• Different approaches to raising a child in the family on the part of different educating figures;
• Immoral lifestyle of parents: parents suffer from alcoholism, drug addiction, commit offenses.

But such children have not only deficiencies in behavior, but also many positive qualities. They are rampant dreamers and inventors, they always have an uncommon answer to any question you ask.

As adults, they turn into different showmen, actors, join the ranks of creative-minded people. They love to dream, and notice in the outside world, something that you have not seen.

The most complete scheme of psychological correction with the help of games and exercises is described in the books:

I.P.Bryazgunova and E.V. Kasatikova “Restless Child”:

Classes that are held with such children may include the following methods and techniques:

• games for the development of attention and coordination of movements;
• learning self-massage;
• games for the development of tactile interaction;
• mobile games of the constraining moments;
• finger games;
• work with clay, sand and water.

Here are a few games from these books for children of preschool and school age, which any mother can spend at home:

• Exercise "Yoga gymnastics for kids»;
• «Set the alarm"- squeeze the palm in the cam, perform circular movements at the solar plexus;
• «Alarm clock rang, "ZZZ" - we stroke a palm on a head;
• «Sculpt face"- we hold hands on the edge of the face;
• «Sculpt hairs"- press the fingertips on the hair roots;
• «Sculpt eyes“- touch the eyelids with your fingertips, hold the index finger around the eyes. Blink eyes;
• «Sculpt spout"- we hold the index finger from the nose bridge down the wings of the nose;
• «Sculpt ears"- pinching the earlobes, stroking the ears;
• «Sculpt chin"- stroke the chin;
• «Draw the nose of the sun " - we twist the head, draw a nose with the rays;
• «We stroke our pens“- stroke one hand first, then the other;
• Speak in chorus: "I am good, kind, beautiful, we stroke our heads ";
• Exercise "One, two, three - say!": Mom draws a track, grass and a house on a piece of paper or blackboard. Then he offers only after the command “One, two, three - say!” To say what is shown in the picture. After that, the mother with her eyes closed and asks the child to draw a flower or a bird, then she guesses that she has finished her baby. This game teaches you to be a child patient and attentive.

Take any printed text with large print. Give one part of the text to the child, leave the other to yourself. As a task, suggest that the child cross out all the letters “a” in the text, after completing the task, exchange texts for the mutual test.

If the child has symptoms of ADHD, distract and switch attention:

• Interest in other activities;
• Ask your child unexpected questions;
• Translate the child's behavior into a joke;
• Do not prohibit the child’s action in a categorical form;
• Do not order arrogantly, but ask to do something politely;
• Try to listen to what the child wants to say;
• Try to repeat your request many times with the same words (in a calm tone);
• Leave one in the room (if it is safe for his health);
• Do not read morals (the child still does not hear them).

Listen to the advice of Dr. Komarovsky on how to raise a hyperactive baby:

• It is difficult for children to keep a lot of information in their heads. It is best to break assignments for them. First give one task, then another. For example, first say that you need to remove the toys and only after the baby has done this, let’s follow the instructions.
• Most hyperactive children have huge problems with the sense of time. They do not know how to plan their activities. That is, they cannot be said that if you do the task, in a month you will receive a toy. It is important for them to hear, you take away the toys and get the candy.

• Application timer It helps children who have problems with the sense of time to track it. You can use the usual hourglass or musical moments.
• Be sure to be monitored and consulted by a specialist neurologist and, if necessary, take medication.
• Eliminate excess sugar intake. This can give additional energy, and lead to over-excitation of the nervous system.
• Eliminate food allergies from the diet. It can be various dyes, preservatives, flavors.
• Give your child regular use. viitaminov.
• In conversations with the child always maintain a positive attitude.
• Speak always calmly. Avoid the words "no", "no".
• Avoid large crowds and noisy companies.
• Predict his overworkswitch attention.
• Take the child to the sports section, it gives a useful discharge to his body.