Why did the child stop going to the pot and what to do?
Each, even if a small achievement of the children, not only does not go unnoticed, but also becomes a whole event. The life of a child, especially at a young age, is full of surprises, and one such example is the situation when a child has ceased to go to the pot. Understand what happened and how to help the child and himself, this article will describe.
The reasons
The reasons that the child went to the pot, and now stopped asking, maybe a lot. Here we describe only the most common ones.
- The main reason is the so-called crisis age. In young children, as in adults, it also happens, such periods occur in 2, 3 and 4 years. In each of these periods, the child begins a sharp development of the nervous system. He quickly grows psychologically, begins to understand some things and think differently. There are many theories about what this age is caused by, but the conclusion is always the same - almost every child has a crisis stage, and it is necessary to relive it correctly.
- Stressful situation. If, at an older age, children are attracted by something new, then when they are small, they emotionally perceive any change in the situation, relocation, replenishment in the family or, on the contrary, the care of someone from the family, the appearance of a pet, and even the acquisition of new technology. Of all the above factors, the most stressful are parents' conflicts and relocations.
- In addition to quarrels between parents, a child can be affected by his own conflicts with them. The uneasy relationship between young children and their parents is a separate topic. A small child may be angry with their parents, maybe jealousand demand attention, which will indirectly cause him to change his habits.
- Teething can be one of the main reasons. Besides the fact that the child ceases to go to the pot, he can get very sick.
- Racing development. For children, intellectual leaps are characteristic both in the direction of development and “backward”. There is nothing terrible in the latter, the child will eventually learn to cope with all the difficulties and responsibilities that he will get used to. The cause of such differences can be a strong fright or a traumatic situation.
- The child just does not want to do anything. He knows that mom or another family member will fix everything, just call them.
- Kindergarten. It happens that after starting a kindergarten, a child forms a strong hostility towards the pot. The reason may be the wrong attitude of caregivers, and caused in this connection associations.
What to do?
To begin with, the traditional approach of criticism to the child is wrong and ineffective.
Do not turn every trip into the toilet into an act of punishment.
Of course, it is best to find out the problem of why the pot has again become disagreeable, and to start domestication again. It is necessary to offer a pot unobtrusively, but regularly. Some pediatricians and child psychologists recommend to sculpt from the clay produced by the child waste and put them in the pot. It is important to do this with the child, and one day he will ask for the pot again.
Using the technique of "reward" for going to the pot is recommended only in rare cases. Basically, such a strategy only exacerbates the problem and may bring more difficulties. Not only will the child become naughty and restless, he will also require sweets and toys for each trip to the pot.
Another effective way is co-dressing.From the age of 2, the child already understands the words addressed to him, so you should talk to him, explain how uncomfortable to wear wet clothes, and help him change his clothes. It is important not to do everything yourself, but together with the child. The likelihood that this will work the first time is rather low, so regularity and patience are important here. A huge role in this process is played by the fact that the kid will eventually get tired of being distracted from games for a long time, which is necessary for changing clothes.
Simply put, it is the fear of an uncomfortable state, and not punishment or parents should be the motivation for the child. The kid realizes that if he sits in wet clothes, he will freeze.
Such an approach may affect the habits of a relatively large child over 3 years old, for children younger it will be more difficult to understand. It is important to keep the child in decent conditions and a warm room to avoid subsequent health problems, the cause of which may be wet clothes.
Parenting advice
In addition to the advice of professionals, there are recommendations of parents and grandmothers. Their effectiveness is proven by time and personal experience. Below are some of them.
- The interest in a child can cause a new bright pot, which must be comfortable. A beautiful accessory may make you want to try it.
- The peers of the child can help in this matter; by their example, he can also start using the pot.
- Only in extreme cases it is worth contacting specialists in the field of child psychology. As a rule, the situation requires intervention if there are a number of other serious problems in the behavior of the child. Most often, it is recommended to solve this problem at home.
- An additional motivator for the little one can be the approval and positive emotions of the parents, which they will demonstrate after each successful pot trip.
- If the child began to use the pot after the break, and did something wrong, in any case, do not raise your voice and do not force it to remove. Such an attitude can lead to dislike the baby as you and the pot.
Remember that if a child abandons a pot, it means that he is under the influence of a stressful situation. Only you, as a parent, will be able to organize a correct, planned and effective approach to the problem of your child.
About what parents should do if the child has ceased to go to the pot, see the following video.