Infertility Psychosomatics in Women and Men

According to statistics, up to 25% of couples have difficulty in conceiving, while the proportion of male infertility is no less than that of women. Scientists note that there is a very alarming tendency towards an increase in the number of infertile couples, and very often the cause of infertility cannot be established. The share of psychogenic infertility is given about 15% of all cases, and this deserves special attention.

Infertility in medicine is a condition in which people of reproductive age are incapable of reproducing offspring. A sterile couple is considered to be unable to conceive a child for a year without contraception and having an active sex life.

Infertility may be due to female, male or mutual factors. Women produce congenital and acquired reproductive disorders. Acquired factors can be expressed gynecological diseases, hormonal disorders.

A significant proportion of all cases is infertility of the so-called unexplained genesis (or psychosomatic infertility). In men, the inability to fertilize a woman can also be either congenital or acquired, associated with a decrease in the quality of spermatozoa, a decrease in their number, or a violation of the morphological characteristics of germ cells. And the psychogenic factor plays an important role here.

Reproductive specialists often face situations when a survey conducted in a man and a woman does not show significant deviations from the norms, but at the same time, pregnancy does not occur.

Consultation with this specialist will not prevent all couples who are being treated for infertility, regardless of the reasons, since very often problems with fertility between men and women are created by themselves. It is their study of psychosomatic medicine.

For a new life to be conceived, we need mature and healthy germ cells of a man and a woman. The main word is “mature”. I.e, for conception it is necessary that both partners are mature enough psychologically and mentally to give rise to a new life.

And this readiness is not expressed in the statements of the spouses that it would be time for them to become parents already. This is an inner, emotional and subconscious willingness to continue the race. Very often it is her and not. Thus, from the point of view of psychosomatics, infertility is the subconscious unreadiness of one of the partners or both at once to become parents.

Let's consider a completely standard situation: a couple have been married for several years now, and relatives and friends are increasingly beginning to persistently and unceremoniously ask questions: “Isn't it time already?”.

Under pressure from the outside, many couples do decide to conceive, but, being unprepared for this themselves, may face unsuccessful attempts to conceive a baby.. One of the partners may well be ready, but the second may doubt their own abilities, be too responsible and consider that raising a child is very, very difficult, and also be wary of having a sick child, especially if there are such cases as illustrative examples: , friends had sick children.

A couple who have no children are often looked upon with regret, considering them sick. And if this couple declares that they do not consciously want children, then a squall of public condemnation will immediately fall upon her. In order not to stand out from the crowd, many decide to conceive and give birth to a child, but they don’t feel an inner readiness and desire for it, and therefore they subconsciously fear pregnancy., and conception as a result does not occur.

But female and male infertility and have their own, distinct from each other reasons.

Impaired reproductive function in women often appears on the background of a long, almost chronic fear of change. A woman is not ready to change her lifestyle, does not want to lose her good physical shape, figure, does not want to take responsibility for another person. All these are signs of infantile girls stuck in childhood who are clearly not ready for motherhood.

Such women are young at 30 and at 40, pink clothes in ruffles and a small dog under the arm, they are very touchy and not independent.

Often Infertility is met by women who have a strong fear of childbirth, pain, before the birth of sick children.. Such fear can be rooted in childhood, when a girl was strongly impressed by a book or film in which the main character died in childbirth or gave birth to an inferior child.

Psychoanalysts who have worked with barren women claim that often women substitute their desires for others. Speaking about the fact that I want to give birth to a child, women often keep silent, that they really want it not for them, but for their husbands or relatives.

Often, psychoanalysis reveals as a cause of infertility lack of sincere love for a partner.

And also difficulties with conception occur in women who have built the idea of ​​giving birth to the category of fix-ideas.

Sometimes the desire of a woman to give birth sincerely, but her intentions are not entirely decent: this happens in families where marriage is on the verge of collapse, and the woman believes that having a child must necessarily bind relationships that are falling apart.

• Infertile often women who categorically deny their own femininity: choosing male professions, behaving like men, competing with men in different spheres of life, putting a career in the first place.
• And difficulties may arise for women who have begun sexually early and are used to experiencing the fear of an untimely, early pregnancy, at the subconscious level they have the setting “just not to get pregnant”, and it is necessary to get rid of it.
• Infertility threatens girls who have had very difficult relationships with their own mothers.In this connection, the image of the mother as a whole in his head was not the most biased.

To identify the problem will help an experienced skilled psychotherapist-hypnologist.

As in the case of female infertility, in men problems with conception appear when, in principle, they are not ready to take responsibility and to experience deep emotional affection. At the same time, a man may completely agree with a woman that it is time to have an heir, and even take vitamins and try to get on the necessary days of the menstrual cycle, but conception will not occur.

Stress, which is experienced internally by a man who is not ready for fatherhood, the fear of responsibility, the abandonment of his own masculinity, can lead not only to hormonal disturbances and a decrease in the quality of spermatozoa, but also to impotence.

It is important to cure not only the disease that may accompany, but also the psycho-emotional background of the spouses.

This will help a psychologist, psychotherapist. The couple will need to honestly admit what they are afraid of and what attitudes they have regarding pregnancy, childbirth and children. In most cases, family therapy produces results.

The psychosomatic causes of infertility from the mouth of a psychologist can be found in the video below.