How to find a surrogate mother for the birth of a child and how much are the services?

Among infertile couples in Russia, about 15% require the help of a surrogate mother. Without it, the spouses' biologically native child simply cannot be born. There are many reasons for that - congenital and acquired anomalies of the development of the uterus, vagina, serious chronic illnesses that are incompatible with pregnancy and childbirth, age. Surmaturing may also be useful for single men who dream of paternity, and single women who suffer from total infertility. The main question is where to find the one that can bear, give birth and give away another child, and what reward she can demand. In this article we will tell about it in more detail.

In Russia, legislation does not limit the circle of persons who may become surrogate mothers. The only restrictions imposed by the Ministry of Health are strict requirements for the health of the candidate, the presence of her own children, etc. In some countries, for example, in Israel, it is prohibited by law to choose a surrogate mother from among relatives. In our country, such a ban does not exist. Therefore, the question of where to find a woman who can bear your child can be answered as follows:

• by acquaintances and relatives (any relative of reproductive age will do);
• through specialized reproductive agencies;
• in a clinic where a barren woman is observed;
• through the Internet.

Self-search will help save money, find a reliable person whom you trust without intermediaries.

Searching through the Internet seems tempting and quite easy, because on demand “find surrogate” you will definitely open a large number of forums and announcements. Good and proven gestational couriers (this is the official name of the surmies on the recommendation of WHO) do not want to become victims of fraudsters, and therefore they usually don’t go to the Internet.

But in the open spaces of the Network you will find a huge number of women who are ready to give you fake medical references about their health even tomorrow, just to get an advance payment from their bioregents quickly.

Several types of fraud thrive on the web. Someone declares himself a mediator. He meets with you in reality, presents you with a pretty and modest lady, who, of course, has all the information and documents. But here a trouble, some references appear overdue. You take money for a new survey and disappear. Typically, such "intermediaries" from the Internet cheat several pairs, after which they change phones and under the new name are called again to be intermediaries.

Another scheme - a potential candidate goes to the contact herself, asks to send her money for the journey to your city, for example, from another place in Russia or even from the CIS countries, and then simply disappears. Some purposefully do not want to get pregnant, even signing an agreement with "customers". In this case, neither doctors nor biological parents will understand why several IVF attempts have failed.In the meantime, a woman will take hormonal drugs that will not allow pregnancy to occur, and in each attempt to demand another advance payment from biogenites.

The most reliable, but less economical, is a search through reproductive agencies and clinics. Almost every large clinic that conducts IVF and deals with other types of assisted reproductive techniques has a personal register of gestational couriers. In reproductive agencies, surrogacy registries are more extensive, all applicants undergo a full medical examination before entering the registry, receive a psychiatrist's opinion and a narcologist, genetics, and also provide all the documents that are needed to participate in the program. Only after their verification, the legal advisers of the agencies decide on the admission of the gestational courier to participate in the program.

Of course, no agency, no clinic will be able to 100% guarantee that there will be no problems with the surrogacy recommended by them at one stage or another, but the probability of a successful search in this situation is much higher.

The requirements, as already mentioned, are clearly marked by the order of the Ministry of Healthcare No. 107-n, which regulates the procedure for providing the Russian population with assisted reproductive medical aid. But future biological parents should be guided in this matter no worse than officials of the Ministry of Health, because we are talking about the health of their future and such a long-awaited baby.

Here are the basic requirements that must be met by a woman who intends to carry a baby for other people:

• Age. The ideal age is the age of the highest reproductive activity - from 20 to 35 years.
• Having a baby. What plays the role is how your child was conceived, whether it was a natural conception. Important and method of delivery. If the candidate had a cesarean section, she would not be able to be a gestational courier.
• Family status. If a potential candidate is married, be sure to ask her notarized husband’s consent for his wife to participate in the IVF program as surm. If the candidate is divorced or lives in a civil marriage, such a document is not needed.
• Health status. A detailed list of tests and medical specialists is available in your clinic or in the order of the Ministry of Health No. 107-n. In addition to many tests, a woman is obliged to provide certificates from a psychiatrist and a narcologist, while a psychiatrist makes a separate conclusion about responsibility.
• Genetic tolerance. A geneticist will make a conclusion about a woman’s health at the gene level. Her oocytes will not be used for IVF, it is prohibited by law in Russia, but the genetic conclusion is important in order to exclude some hereditary diseases from the woman herself, because during the period of gestation they can appear.
• No criminal record. A woman who declares the intention of carrying your child must have a valid certificate of no criminal record, and that she is not currently suspect and is not under investigation.

You can try to find a surrogate mother in Ukraine or in Belarus, where their services are cheaper, but the requirements that are set by the Ministry of Health of these countries may differ. Therefore, most Russian clinics try to cooperate only with women who have Russian citizenship. If this is a matter of principle for you, ask for confirmation - a Russian passport, SNILS.

Pay attention to the personality - how much a woman is intellectually developed, if she has bad habits, how much she is obligatory. This will help to understand how she will relate to her duties, because carrying another child is a real work.You need to follow a certain regimen, take vitamins, eat right, do not drink or smoke, and visit a doctor in time.

Also pay attention to the build. Overweight women and women with obvious obesity will be harder to wear a pregnancy, dangerous complications may develop, for example, preeclampsia. As a result, the child will suffer, and he will be yours, by blood and genes. It is important that the biological mother coincided Rh factors in the blood, if we are talking about a positive Rhesus.

If biological parents would like to limit communication with a woman they do not know during pregnancy, they can use the service of a curator - the clinic or the reproductive agency will determine a mediator - a person who will monitor the fulfillment of the contract terms by both parties.

Biological parents must reasonably control the entire pregnancy process, pay a monthly allowance for surrogates, as well as assume all the costs of buying food, renting an apartment during pregnancy, buying clothes for it, vitamins and everything that your doctor prescribes.

Surrogate mother road services. On average in Russia, the contract price starts from 800-900 thousand rubles and can exceed 3 million, it all depends on the region and the standard of living in it. This is the cost of only childbirth. For 9 months, you will have to fork out for monthly payments, a kind of “salary” to surrogates - from 15 to 50 thousand. Plus all associated costs (renting an apartment, meals, trips to a sanatorium or a trip to a spa treatment).

Advance should prepare for the fact that to lead the pregnancy will be a private clinic, where everything will be paid. Payment of medical bills is also the responsibility of biological parents. If the surrogate mother comes from a neighboring state, you will need to take care of temporary registration for her on the territory of our country.

Surrogate mothers with experience (already having experience of successful maternity contracts) are much more expensive than “newbies”, as they are more predictable.

The size of the fee the female gestational courier is entitled to independently assess, no law regulates the amount of the payment. Everything will depend on the requests of the candidate and the ability of the couple to satisfy these requests.

After specifying the price, checking the documents and certificates of the candidate that was found, the biological parents should check it with the existing “black lists” on special internet resources devoted to surrogacy. Gestational couriers and fraudsters, who are masked for them, sooner or later come into view and their names fall into the lists.

In their responses, spouses who were faced with the task of choosing a reliable and decent person for childbirth, indicate that it is better to overpay and use the services of agencies and clinics than to engage in independent search. Moreover, many people would like to hide this fact from their relatives and friends.

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